As girls and boys grow older, they tend to judge and be harder on themselves. They look around and see others as cute and cool, but when they turn to the mirror they see disappointment and things they want to change. This can lead to low self-esteem and depression, especially through the teenage years. Many parents and mentors see this in their children and want them to see just how beautiful or handsome they really are. Here are a few things you can do to help your children grow to be self-confident and happy with how they see themselves.
Tell your child their body is healthy and strong
Focus on the good things about their body. Look at how many things they can accomplish and do with their body.
Go on walks together
This shows that you want to spend time with them and you also value exercise. You want to keep your body healthy.
Don’t comment on other’s bodies.
In the words of Thumper, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.” Don’t comment on the shape or appearance of another’s body, good or bad. This puts us in the pathway of comparing our weaknesses to other’s strengths or vice versa. Try focusing on personality traits.
Don’t criticize your body or theirs
Have you ever heard that it takes 10 good things said about you to negate 1 bad thing said about you? Well, it holds true, especially to our young children and teenagers.
Let your child know you love your body
Self-confidence in our children has to start with their parents. If we can’t see our true beauty, how can we expect them to see theirs?
I challenge you to try at least one of these suggestions for 2-3 weeks. Let us know if you are seeing your child’s self-confidence and self-esteem boost. Also, let us know if you have any suggestions that have worked for you.
Laura Colledge (Bravo Employee)