Children sometimes believe that they are the rulers of the world. Especially those tiny toddlers. They are at the stage where they think they are in control of not only themselves, but of everyone around them. And as adults, we at times will give into their “demands” and end up being the one controlled in a situation. If you are having a difficult time with your children, below are some tips on setting limits with them and letting them know that they can’t be the little boss of everyone!
- Make sure to always be direct and specific. Do not be too general with your instructions. Be clear and precise and always make sure to follow through on what you have just said to them. This will help them have a clear understanding of what you are trying to explain to them.
- Use a firm and kind voice. Firm doesn’t mean yelling, firm doesn’t also mean that you are being rude or unkind towards your child. By using a firm and kind tone when speaking to them, it shows them that you are being confidant with what you are saying and that you mean it and will follow through.
- Do not argue. Nothing can be more frustrating than when you are speaking to you child and giving them an explanation and they will give you the old “why, why, why”. You will just get sucked into a never-ending loop. Just give them a clear explanation and if they again push at it, simply say, “I’m done talking about it” or “I’m not going to argue with you” they will realize that your word is final and nothing will change it.
- Make sure to always give choices, but always have a limit on them as well. Children love choices! They love being in control and being able to make their own decisions. So if you are having trouble with your child, simply give them a couple of choices to pick from. For example, if you are having trouble getting them to get ready for bed have them pick between either brushing their teeth first, or putting on pajamas first. They’ll love the idea of having options.
- Allow your child to cool off or calm down about a situation. Children release stress by throwing crying, screaming, throwing tantrums, etc. It’s always best to have the child be able to express those emotions appropriately, and by also letting them have the time to calm down before a situation can be handled. That way, neither you nor your child is frustrated and can talk about a situation more calmly.
Every child is different. With a unique personality and temperament to match. It’s always important that we always listen to the child more than anything. There is a reason for every type of behavior that goes on. By using the above tips, handling a situation with your tiny toddlers can make it that much easier and smoother!
-Tiffany Hernandez (Bravo Employee)